Life Time Best-Friend 🖤

I turned over this morning and opened my eyes to my best-friend. I mean, I’ve been opening my eyes up to him for over several years now, but this morning was different. It’s a warm feeling, something most unfortunately, never feel. He’s my life-partner, the person I chose to spend the rest of my life with. I love him, he loves me back. The feelings are all mutual, one in the same. We both, learning how to agree to disagree and how to compromise on higher levels. Through good times and bad times our feelings always remaining the same. Several years I’ve been opening my eyes to you. Wow, I’m shocked my damn self. I really did not plan for this at all! God knew what he was doing when he made me for you, and you for me. People ask us all the time “tell me the secret, how did y’all make it”? I think it’s because we chose one another, even when the times get hard I still choose you.

What am I going to do…like literally?

Good morning, afternoon, evening, where ever you are. Where I am its 7 AM and i’m literally up thinking about my life and my “purpose” early this morning. I’m at that weird age and stage of my life where you feel like your just “here” and haven’t really found out what it is that I want to do with my life. Like really, have you ever just thought to yourself “What in the hell am I here for?”. You have your photographers, your rappers, your singers, your fashionistas, your make-up artist, the list goes on. But where do I fit?

Lately I’ve been slowly learning more and more about myself. My likes and dislikes, my little hobbies that i’m interested in (like blogging) but I fall off here and there *sigh*, again WTH am I here for!? I know what your thinking “you don’t know your likes and dislikes already”? Listen, when you get to age 26 you realize those things you once loved and couldn’t get enough of, well you will get enough of and the taste buds in fact DO change.

Am I writer? I mean don’t get me wrong I was never the person in school getting super excited when the teacher said “Are you guys excited for the new topic we’re writing about this week?”…..

But I’m almost certain I do enjoy writing about what “I” like to write about. I also have a niche for music. I was a singer for almost all my life in church, chorus and even was in a show choir!

I know right. Yes, I was in a full blown show choir for 3 years of my high school career and I absolutely loved every single year of it because I enjoyed performing! But I could never see my ready to be 2 babies deep, full grown woman (add like 40 more pounds from high school), with a whole husband and all performing on a stage again. So yet again here I am, WTH am I here for?!

I’m seriously perplexed. Like I feel so overwhelmed and feeling like i’m loosing time because I haven’t figured it out yet. I’m seeing everyone doing SOMETHING and yet I feel like I’m doing nothing, and don’t get me started on what I’ve been told. “Oh your a mother your doing A LOT of something” or “You are the woman of the house your doing something good everyday”. Yea, this maybe true but I want to do something for myself. No mom likes to hear about how shes “Such a MOM” like we don’t already know!

Sometimes us “Moms” want to be viewed as something else other then being a mom and/or wife all the time. What about me? Without the obvious titles, without the everyday chores that most of the time are overlooked and under appreciated because its seriously “WHAT I’M SUPPOSE TO DO”! I want to find my purpose, what is it that I can do that would be viewed as unique and awesome about my own self? Well on to my journey of finding my “purpose” until next time….

January 1, 2019.

I woke up feeling G R E A T this morning! Its something about a New Year that makes you feel like its a clean slate. Yes, the same sun will rise and set, but its the first day of a new 365 days. I didn’t want to go out of 2018 with a party, being turned up, drunk, and high as ever. I really did want a


So what am I changing? What are my cliche resolutions for 2019? Well, its not much. Actually its pretty simple, and I only have 5.

  1. S T O P being friends with Mary Jane (no smoking).
  2. S T O P indulging in other peoples drama.
  3. G A I N self control
  4. T R A V E L!
  5. save, save, S A V E!

Pretty simple right?

I think the only part I struggle with the most is number 1. See, Mary Jane found me at a very vulnerable and messy time. N O, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with a little weed here and there. But I do believe it can get out of control if you let it, just like any other addiction. Yes you heard me, addiction.

I knew it was a problem when I told myself multiple times “OK we’re not going to smoke today” (yes that’s me talking to me), but yet I still ended up rolling a L before the end of the day.

I was so disappointed in myself.

So for 2019 I promised myself that I wasn’t going to do it until I felt strong enough to have some self control. At first, I smoked because I was always in pain and it seemed to have helped. I no longer had chronicle headaches, no more back pain, no more hip pain, no more pain. It also helped me with stress. No more worrying, complaining, nagging, or trying to control everything.

I was a smooth sailing human being 😊

Until I realized this is getting expensive and now I’m just doing it to do it, not because I necessarily need it. So I decided its time to S T O P. But I learned something about myself at that very moment.

I don’t have any self control, I cant stop. 🤦‍♀️

So you know what I did?

So this year My most focused resolution is to stop smoking. I don’t know for how long, maybe a few months, maybe forever.

But I just want to see how my body will react and see if marijuana really did help my body pains and migraines like I thought. In Cali and other places marijuana is legal and used for medical purposes. Marijuana has also saved the lives of people who suffer with chronic pain and seizures. This is why I don’t see it as a crime or wrong. But I will say, it can getting out of control if you let it, just like any “too good” of a thing, so here goes.

Wish me luck 🤞

Through D A N C E

I’ve been trying to think of ways to loose weight. Through the Gym? Through meal prep? Keep diet? But I want to enjoy it, ugh! What can I do!? Well, there was those days when you would jump around in the kitchen floor actin as if you were a ballerina or hip hop movie. Who said you have to give up on your true spirit animal just because life got in the way? Lets lose weight through D A N C E! I’ve always enjoyed dancing but it’s seems that when I graduated high school, became an adult, got married and had babies, life just got in the way. I gave up on those things, thinking it could never be. Although I lay secretly in bed starring at dance YouTube videos like playground La. I miss dancing 😩. I miss feeling free and loose, free spirit. But more importantly it kept me in shape then, so I know I could snap back with dancing now. I have the time, I just need the resources. Looking like 2019 will start off with #OperationFindchoreographer